Dedicated to the work and memory of Dr. Haim Ginott (1922-1973) — a psychologist, a parent educator, and a sorely missed man
There is a time and place for sharing one’s feelings.
“Many people have been educated out of knowing what their feelings are.” Haim Ginott
"Children do not yearn for equal shares of love: They need to be loved uniquely, not uniformly. The emphasis is on quality, not equality." Haim Ginott
“I’ve come to a frightening conclusion…”
“We are unaware that words are like knives…”
When we treat children with respect, as if they are capable of change without an adult enforcer at every turn, they tend to rise above our expectations.
"Most parents love their children, but it is important that they not have an urgent need to be loved by them every minute of the day." Haim Ginott
The original 'helicopter parent', coined by Haim Ginott
"Words have the power to build and energize or to frighten and devastate." Haim Ginott
"It is said that nature always sides with the hidden flaw. Teachers have the opposite role: to side with the hidden asset." Haim Ginott
To teach listening one school instituted this practice: One hour, every other day, students engage in a discussion of personal and social issues about which they feel strongly. One unusual rule is observed...
"Where do we start if we are to improve communication with children? By examining how we respond." Haim Ginott
"From the first grade on, parents' attitudes should convey that homework is strictly the responsibility of the child and the teacher." Haim Ginott
Parents are enraged when children lie, especially when the lie is obvious and the liar is clumsy.
I’ve come to a frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element in the classroom [or home]. It’s my personal approach that creates the climate. It’s my daily mood that makes the weather. As a teacher [or parent], I possess a tremendous power to make a child’s life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or dehumanized.